Weekly rendezvous in Hyatt Hotel - no strings attached! Just what every man dreams of - or is it?

Could I answer that ad? Do I have the guts (?) to face a woman on declared men's terms? To have to be good! Better, even, than a host of contenders answering this weekly suggestion?!

Maybe I'm not your 'Typical Aussie Male' and I feel more deeply than most the desire for more than good sex in a relationship. Maybe I'm just voicing something most men feel but are succesfully stifled in saying (and feeling) by societies expectations of Manhood/Womanhood.

So what is this 'more' that I desire? That stops me answereing the ad and most others (male and female) from placing it? I beleive that good relationships are built not found (some judicious looking and finding does help though), but what is this 'good' relationship? A succesful one? What then are the 'success' or 'goodness' indicators for a relationship.

Richard Bach wrote that we were here for two reasons; Fun and Learning. By some quirk of nature the two activities go hand in hand - it is almost impossible to have fun without learning at the same time - even if by accident.

My desire for love and to give love, for the pure fun and pleasure of sharing myself, my whole self, with another and for the growth and learning that comes from close association with anyone else. This is what stops me placing/answereing the ad.

Does my weekly rendezvous satisfy these desires? Is it Fun and Learning with love given and recieved thrown in? I'm sure it could be great fun! To quote 'languidity and laughter' sounds quite put-upable-with. Would it be learning too? Could I grow closer to another person and share love with them without this turning into a common garden variety relationship?

I have freinds I love dearly and do not see for years at a time, this does not detract from the love we share nor the fun we have together or the learning I gain from association with wonderful people.

I've asked more questions than proposed answers but I seem to have convinced myself that the proposed rendezvous might meet all my 'success indicators' for a relationship. I might have to place that ad - one day, just to see what happens!